COMIC THERAPY

And sicker and tired-er of trying to prove that I am

I’ve spent most of my life trying to prove that I’m worthwhile. And the rest of it asleep.

I don’t know why it’s always been like this. It feels like I’m forever starting the race hours after the gun, desperately hoping simply to finish before the maintenance staff locks up the stadium and goes home.


CONNECTION COMICS

So why does everyone keep saying we do?

We literally come into the world tethered to another person. Usually, there are doctors, nurses, fathers, doulas, and other assorted bystanders there too.

Don’t mind us.

And when we die, there are frequently people there as well, sometimes holding our hand as we pass.

Still, my mom used to repeatedly chant the mantra that “we come in alone and go out alone.” Throngs of other people say the same thing even though it’s extraordinarily untrue.


KEEPING IT REAL

OK?

My life has been filled with emotional struggles. So have a lot of people’s. Life is hard. Yet we smile and insist we’re fine.

Super duper. Ba-bye.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not attacking the common courtesy of not dumping a cartload of crap-packed baggage on the first moment of an encounter. (However, a trusting pause and reassuring “hanging in there” might be a better automatic answer to the question of how we’re doing.)


CONNECTION COMICS

And it never will

Looking out for “number one,” is the default directive of the plant and animal kingdoms. So it’s not a shock that this knee-jerk reflex turns up in people. But, as Richard Dawkins insightfully pointed out, “number one” doesn’t refer to individuals, but to genes.

In a surprisingly large number of organisms, Dawkins’ selfish genes flip the dog-eat-dog world on its floppy ears, and create individuals who look out for each other, even at their own expense. Mostly, this occurs in ants, bees, wasps, and a few other bugs. …


CREATION COMICS

Obviously for rehabilitation. Or possibly indentured servitude.

One of the giant questions we all face is why we’re here. This is no trivial matter since the ultimate purpose of life gives us our sense of direction, and an inaccurate answer can lead us far astray.

Some of us get a bye on the question with the ready-made answer that God plopped us here. But even for those lucky enough to believe in one Almighty Creator or another, this answer really isn’t an answer at all since it begs the question of why in God’s name God would do such a thing.


KATE & JACK COMICS

My how I’ve grown

First of all, it’s important to say that I am blessed with one of the worst possible TV memories. I can happily rewatch things I’ve already seen, over and over again for the first time.

Me, if I was also lost on an island and could grow a cool beard.

While I didn’t remember most of the details of what happened on LOST, my general impression was that the first seasons were terrific fun, but then it became deeply confused and finally flat-out fraudulent.

In the last of its six seasons, I remember my wife and I looking at each other in horror when they announced that there were only three episodes left. Both of…


Well, more of a wreck

All comics ©2021 by David Milgrim

Working on speculation, or spec as they say in the biz, is a shorthand way of saying that no one actually needs me or cares if I exist.

When I write a book, it starts with a sketch dummy that I create without anyone having asked for it. I have no idea if someone is going to like it or want to publish it. It’s just me, alone at my desk, sweating the details, hoping that it, and I, will eventually find approval and acceptance.


CONTEMPLATION COMICS

So why do it?

I would be hard-pressed to find a worse distraction than writing. Even meditation is better. Yes, you read that right. Sitting quietly, alone, with nothing at all to take my mind off my mind, still provides a better distraction from my fears, doubts, and grief than trying to write.

Coffee and pastries work great, but only until they are gone which is always too soon. Sometimes, a sugar stupor can lay me out for a nap which is quite effective for fifteen or twenty blissful minutes, albeit decidedly unproductive.


COGNITION COMICS

If at first you don’t succeed

Let the healing begin.

I was already well into my twenties when I learned how critical the first years of life are. And how screwing them up, as I already had, would have lifelong consequences for my brain development, emotional stability, and baseline central nervous system functioning.

David Milgrim

Top Writer in Psychology, Self-improvement, Satire, and Humor; Trying to Feel Okay, One Comic at a Time; Contact me at sitemail1000@gmail.com or www.milgy.com

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